These days it seems like a week or sometimes a day doesn’t go by when there isn’t a media story about boys, well actually men, behaving badly. Countless rugby league scandals, and now a parliamentry minister who has been cheating on his wife.
So on all of these issues I’ve read many a news story including; one on SMH.com.au, where the question ‘are league players just acting their age’ is asked:
Men of footballing age figure prominently in police dispatches any Friday and Saturday night; clearly, few of them are subject to the same level of reporting and scrutiny as professional athletes. And, while the NRL is at great pains to impress upon the young men who play the game they will be exposed publicly when they breach community standards, the regular headlines of player atrocities would seem to suggest the message is not always getting through.
And then came the John Della Bosca affair, and too many media reports and articles to count. Some included the article “Mistress who dumped Della ‘predatory': psychologist” basically blaming the woman, followed by another woman claiming she was mistress number 2. And yesterday journalists doing what journalists do, they tracked down mistress number 1 and named her.
So let’s chat about 2 things. Firstly, the things that these men are doing are not reserved for the rich and famous. They are regularly occuring crappy incidents in society; men getting drunk and doing stupid things and getting arrested and men cheating and getting caught. So once again here we are, de ja vu, that these men who are in the public eye and get themselves into these stupid situations have to accept the consequences of their high profile role in our society. Right? Or Wrong?
This is my second point. There is much debate about this as to whether because someone is in the public eye and often seen as a role model they have a higher duty of care to watch their actions. Others believe that they still have the right to live their lives and not have to face any consequences from being in the public eye.
Me? Well I think I sit somewhere in the middle and my opinion seems to differ depending on the situation.
So while these types of incidents will continue to occur in everyday life and go unpublicised when it’s Joe Blo down the road having it off with some chick other than his wife, or some dude getting drunk and peeing on the side of a building in public because he’s too pissed or too stupid to find a toilet, they will continue to be publicised when they are being performed by someone in the public eye.
So. Like I said here we are again – should people in the public eye resign from their job because they had an affair? Should they expect to be treated any differently rightly or wrongly because they are ‘famous’? What do you think? Not from a moral point of view though.
And to the ‘other woman’ in Mr Della Bosca’s life – How on earth she ever expected to stay anonymous and not cop any media backlash is really quite beyond me. There are now stories, pictures and YouTube videos circulating already. Gosh I think all that’s a whole other Puff Piece!