To plan or not to plan?

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I’ve done the classes. I’ve read the books. I’ve consulted Dr Google (much to my Husband’s disgust). And this is my birth plan.

Yep, that’s right. I don’t have a birth plan. Unless you call having no plan, your plan, then I guess I kinda have a plan. Make sense? Don’t worry I confuse myself sometimes too.

Anyway, I digress.

So the reason I don’t have a plan? Well like all first time mum’s I have no idea what to expect. It could be long, short, I could cope ok with the pain… Ok, well that’s a big fat lie because I have NO pain threshold, but I’m secretly hoping that I’ll surprise myself. And my Husband!

But the truth is, while I’m relatively open minded about the pain relief options, they scare the beejeesus outta me. So I guess I’m actually not that open minded about them! I’ve had the gas before and then proceeded to throw up for the next couple of hours. Pethidine, hmmm well apparently that also makes you nauseous and a little bit off with the fairies. And then there’s the epidural. Well. A big fat needle being inserted into my spine. Um, no thanks.

But then again, when the time comes I may be saying a big no thanks to those damn contractions, and a big yes please, stick that epidural needle right on in.

Who knows. I guess we’ll just wait and see!

What was your birth plan? Did you even have one? And did it get thrown out the window?!

  • Jodie at Mummy Mayhem
    September 20, 2010

    I’m not a fan of the birth plan. It wasn’t for me. I figured, how could I write out how I wanted the birth to go if I’d never done it before? And then after my first, I realised that stuff happens that you may *never* think to plan for, so why put that pressure on yourself?

    I’m all for having an idea about whether you want drugs or whether you think you might like to take some music in with you…whatever…but in my mind, it’s best just to go with the flow and see what happens.

    I reckon you’re best off using the time you have before the birth to read a good book or sleep or have a pedicure and flick thru trashy mags instead of writing a birth plan. But that’s just me.

    Do what your gut tells you! xxx

  • nomie
    September 21, 2010

    I did have a birth plan, but it was broad. I was going through a birth centre, and natural birth was my hope – but not at all costs. I knew enough to know that anything could happen. So I wrote things like, If I am offered pain relief, I would like to then be given some time to think about my options. I do not like to be pressured. I also wrote that although I hoped for a drug free birth, that if I asked for drugs I wanted my request respected. Yeah, full of contradictions.

    I also made it very clear pethidine and me do not mix and I did not want it at all, but would be open to other pain relief if needed.

    I also wrote things like, I do not like back massages. Please don’t do it. Because I do hate them, and didn’t want a mid wife to try and give me one!

    It was more for my hubby really, so he had a clearer understanding of what I wanted or didn’t want. Because when it came time, I was really in my own head and didn’t talk much at all.

    In the end it did help, because I was transferred from the birth centre to a labour room and my birth centre midwife could not come with me… so my new, lovely, midwife had it to read through and was my agent to a very bossy and opinionated obstetrician who was of the opinion I had no say in my birth or my body. Hubby & I had been awake for over 24 hrs by then and I was talking in single words, not sentences so it did help.

    In the end I had a beautiful boy, a wonderful midwife and an ob who was firmly put in her place. Without my birth plan I know I was heading in a direction that was unnecessary for me and my baby.

    So, (yes there is a point to this ramble!) I would say write one, but make sure it really represents you, not what you think it should say, not what you think a mid wife or an ob want to read. Because only you know.

    Oh, and like Josie said, feet up, trashy mags, day time tv and lots of napping. xxx

  • Thea
    September 21, 2010

    My birth plan looked exactly like yours!! Just go with the flow…it’s all you can do. :)

  • Maxabella
    September 21, 2010

    Sensible, very sensible. I love your style.

    I had a birth plan. It came in very, very handy… years later. Every time we take it out we laugh and laugh and laugh. x

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