First Impressions

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In my second year of Uni we were put into groups for a Public Relations assignment. One of the girls in my group was a loudmouth and extremely opinionated. Or so I thought. That was my first impression. Yes she was loud, but not a ‘loudmouth’, and yes opinionated, but in a confident way.

She thought I was a stuck up snob who thought she was better than everyone else. When actually I was just a little shy and stand offish until I got to know people a little better.

First impressions are funny things. The old saying of first impressions count, is no doubt true and important, especially in situations like job interviews, but are our first impressions of someone always correct?

Sometimes I think we can be too quick to judge. How do you know the girl standing quietly there doesn’t necessarily think she’s better than you, but is just shy. Or the loud girl who won’t shut up, is just bubbly, or talks alot when she’s nervous?

There’s been alot of talk on this subject around the blog world lately, thanks to the recent Aussie Bloggers Conference, which unfortunately I wasn’t able to go to as we were away on holidays. Many, well probably most of the people attending the conference were meeting Twitter and blogger friends for the first time in real life.

Had I have been able to go, I would have been a bundle of nerves! What if I was different to the impression people got of me from my blog? What if people were different to what I thought they would be?

It can take a long time to get to know someone, and most people have different aspects to their personality.

If you had 10 minutes to make a first impression on someone, what impression would you want them to have of you?

  • Shelley
    March 30, 2011

    First impressions can be funny things. I had a very similiar experience to what you describe here when I joined mother’s group. I was very shy and nervous, what with a six week old baby and just trying to find my way into motherhood. This meant I was very quiet in the group, and was slightly intimidated by the overly confident Mum. Somehow one day we decided to go on a walk together, and bang, an hour later we were great friends, with lots in common. I’m so glad we both made an effort to see past that first impression. One thing I love about blogging is the more I do it, the more confident and open I am in myself, which I think hopefully helps me give a more honest first impression, rather than be quiet and reserved. xx

  • Benne
    April 13, 2011

    They have done studies on this and found shy people are usually perceived by others as being snobbish. I guess they think that because you’re not talking to them and being friendly its because you’re ‘up yourself’. People must be rather insecure to jump straight to such negative conclusions.
    I’ve been an introvert my whole life and so Im socially shy around strangers. Even though I love to party and have a good time, Im actually terrified in situations where I hardly know anyone. My automatic reaction is to withdraw. Usually a few drinks gives me some dutch courage though and then I loosen up a bit.
    I have nightmares of experiencing a ‘Bridget Jones moment’. Remember in her first movie when she was standing in a group of people at a party pretending to be a part of the conversation and they were all looking at her like she was a total weirdo. To be honest its not just a nightmare, I’ve actually had that experience several times LOL.
    There have been times when I’ve wished I was more extroverted but its just not who I am. In situations that I have to actually talk to a group of more than 3 or 4 people that I don’t know I have physical reactions such as shaking, trembling voice, palpitations, sweaty palms, dry mouth etc. I really turn into a nervous wreck. No matter how my mind says that its all ok my body just takes over and lets me down every time. Now that Im at Uni I have to do presentations etc and I really dread it. However the only way to overcome these things is to face the fear I suppose.

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