Becoming a Mrs

As my impending nuptials continue to draw closer I thought I’d share with you an opinion on a question I have been asked, surprisingly quite a bit.

The question: Are you going to change your name when you get married? Short answer, Yes.

For nearly 26 years I have been Ami Holder. Call me old fashioned, but it had never crossed my mind not to change my name. When we start a family I don’t want to have a different name to my children and nor did I consider hyphenating it either. It’s actually a little hard to explain! I’m not a big hot shot career woman, nor am I a super famous celebrity!

So in about 86 days I will become Ami Streeter!

Unfortunately for my future husband, he won’t be getting someone that looks like this Mrs!

Did you change your name when you got married?Are you getting married and have decided not to? Why? Guys, would you be upset if your new wife didn’t take your name?
Would love to hear your opinions.

These are a few of my favourite things… or apparently not

Planning a wedding (yes I’m back on the wedding) can be fun, stressful, exciting, stressful, you get the drift. But strangely enough planning our wedding has also made me a little surprised at myself.

If I was asked what some of my favourite things are by way of colours, flowers etc it would very easy for me to answer, pink and tiger lillies. Not so strange I know, however when planning the wedding for some reason I didn’t want pink or tiger lillies!

Before you ask was I ‘allowed’ to have pink I was actually. But only if it was hot pink! (How that’s more manly I don’t know). But still I wasn’t interested. I didn’t want tiger lillies either, just nice simple elegant white bouquets.

I guess I find the whole thing slightly strange because your wedding day is one day that is totally about you and your future hubby/wife yet I’m not going to have the things I normally love and am sometimes defined by. (It’s pretty well known I like pink, yes just look at this website!).

I have come up with some reasons:

• Pink was really obvious
• Everyone has tiger lillies – well a lot recently anyway
• Maybe one day I’ll grow out of the current things I love & I’ll want to look back at my wedding photos & see a nice elegant wedding.

So what did I end up with. You’ll just have to wait and see.

We have our dishes & towels for 2…

We have pots & pans, and oven mitts too. So what do you get for the Bride & Groom whose house is setup in every room?

No matter what type of wedding you are planning there are always going to be tricky situations when you may just offend someone. Not because you are a mean person, but weddings just seem to provide a plethora of situations where you just don’t know what to do.

Take the whole gift registry / wishing well argument. For those who don’t know a wishing well seems to be quite a new thing for weddings where couples ask for just money instead of gifts. I always thought that we would have a wishing well at our wedding. I’ve lived out of home for nearly 8 years now and future hubby he’s, well he’s much older and has lived out of home for oh nearly 21 years! So as I’m sure you can imagine we both have enough stuff to more than fill our house.

We have had mixed reactions to the question of money over gifts. Some don’t mind either way, other’s believe that giving a gift is much more personal and don’t like giving money and other’s can see the practical side of money.

I too like the idea of a gift from someone, however when sitting down to think of things to put on a gift registry I found my list somewhat blank.

Our house is full of everything we need and I wouldn’t like to put things on a list just for the sake of it. So I hear you ask, well what would we do with money instead? Glad you asked! Plenty of things! Currently we’re about to extend our house, not a cheap little exercise. And instead of a guft registry we could use the money to buy things for the bedroom and bathroom as we find them, possibly all at different stores.

Originally I wanted to say no gifts or money. The fact that people have made an effort to come to your wedding, with many people having to travel, I truly believe is gift enough, but once again we are back at that yucky place of possibly offending someone.

So, where to from here? Good question! Thankfully I have oh roughly 10 weeks to decide before the invites go out!
Oh the joys of planning a wedding!