But that’s my name…

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I recently blogged about the pressure of choosing your children’s names. It’s a great priviledge and a huge responsibility. You can read about that HERE.

So there’s the pressure of choosing the right name, picking a middle name, and checking the initials. And then there’s a new dilemma that I have discovered – what if someone you know has already used that name for their child?

So here’s my question. How far removed from someone do you have to be to use the same name? Obviously we would never name our kids the same as their first cousins or the same as our closest friend’s kids, because they would all spend lots of time together, and let’s be honest it would be pretty bloody confusing for all if there were 2 Streeter kids a couple of years apart with the same name.

But what if you don’t spend alot of time with someone whose child’s name you love? Let me explain it in the current situation that’s happening for me.

I was 85% maybe a little bit more sure that I was set on our girls name. Then hubby came home and was chatting about a work colleague who had bought their 12 month old daughter into work and how cute she was. As soon as the child’s name left his lips I was in love. I immediately thought that’s what I want to call my daughter. It’s so beautiful, and a little bit different, but still a proper name, if you know what I mean.

The problem? Well I think hubby is a little worried about using the same name as his work colleague because he sees the guy everyday and because his daughter is still very young. I, on the other hand don’t see any problems with it as our families don’t spend anytime together.

I do worry a little bit about looking like we’re ‘copying’, but ‘copying’ in a good way I think! Hubby mentioned that maybe if it had been on my list from the beginning then it might be different, but I didn’t think of it until he said this little girls name. My response was that you usually don’t think of names until you here them, or read them somewhere. Well that’s how it was for me anyway.

So, as always, what do you think? How precious are you about your kids names? And how far removed from someone do you think you have to be before it’s ok to borrow steal their baby names?!

3 Comments
  • Jodie at Mummy Mayhem
    July 19, 2010

    Ooh – hard one. A guy my Hubby worked with named his 2nd son the same name as our first son. We had seen them socially, but not all that much. A couple of work functions. I’ll be 100% honest with you, and say I was a little surprised they used the name knowing our son had the same name. But I figured they just must have really like it.

    Funny thing is: the wife is now probably my closest friend these days. Our eldest sons started school together and so we all spend a lot of time together, and you know what? It doesn’t worry me in the slightest that their 2nd son has our 1st son’s name.

    But I can see why Hubby might feel uncomfortable about doing that. Esp since they currently work together. But eventually, it might not seem so silly, and Hubby and the father of the girl might not work together in a year’s time etc…so I guess you just have to decide whether you can cope with a little – awkwardness? – for a little while? As you said, they’re not close friends or anything.

    Good luck. I haven’t been much help, have I?

    Let me know if you want me to throw it out to the Ask MM community! ;) x

  • The Girl
    July 19, 2010

    I don’t really know, I know that they probably aren’t close enough for it to really impact. But as you said, hubby is a little against it.

    Then it depends on how common the name is. Is it something that you hear often but not so often it is a very common name? Or is a completely one off that you very rarely hear? If it is the latter I’m not sure, go with this:

    How would you feel if it was the other way around?

    {Not sure that helps a lot! Sorry!}

  • Jane
    July 20, 2010

    GO FOR IT!

    Although, I must say, I don’t think you’ll even have to worry about this since I’m still convinced you’re having a boy!

    But if Tic Tac IS a girl, then I don’t think it’s a major issue. It might be a tad awkward for hubby at first, but that will pass. I can’t exactly imagine a couple of blokes giving each other silent treatment in the office over a baby name. Plus it’s not like your families will be moving in the same circles anyway.

    If you really love the name and you feel it suits your bub perfectly, go for it xx

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